By Rick Grotton,
Membership Committee Director
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We will talk this month about helping gain membership from within, not just within our Granges but within ourselves. I become inspired at times when I hear something on television or something that someone said. I was wondering what I was going to write about this month until I watched a segment on getting rid of negativity and being good to your enemies. Then it hit me; there is much most of us can do to change our thoughts to not only make us feel good but mainly also others so that we can emit those positive energies to others to bring forth positive, happy results. How often have we known a brother or sister who churns up bad feelings and energies by being selfish, vindictive, and threatening to quit if they don’t get their own way or cannot get along with others? Over the years, we all have seen this, and it destroys our goals. Outsiders (potential members) notice this, and they remember.
Who wants to be a member of any organization where negativity thrives or is constant? I have, in the past, transferred to other Granges for that reason because I did not want to be a part of this negativity, and it was affecting me because I allowed it to consume me. I then began feeling down. Leaving was the only solution, as those Granges did not survive (those Granges are not around today).
Every once in a while, I get a feeling of “Why do I write these columns since I rarely get a response or feel that nobody is reading them.” This is a negative feeling that is quickly discarded. But then, I think it is my duty as a membership director to write these columns for the Good of the Order. It isn’t about me. It’s about the Grange and my brothers and sisters. It makes me feel good to be able to share helpful information with others and to see it work. I am contributing to the growth of the organization that has done so much for me and my growth and that is always a great feeling. If nobody reads the columns or answers my requests, I still feel positive feelings because there is potential, and I am happy to contribute positive thoughts, suggestions, and actions. To be an active participant in the growth of the Grange makes me feel rewarded and good, and it is my duty to pass these feelings on to others and to guide them.
The road is long but is filled with good lessons and results. Stop and smell the roses; don’t trample on them. Enjoy the walk down that long road; take in the beauty and learn about yourself as well as others. You and the Grange will reap many rewards once you reach your destinations. Imagine if we were all on the same page. Wow!!!
It isn’t difficult to get rid of these negative feelings if we remain in control and really think. We all want to be happy and we can be by following a few simple steps. First, don’t hang on to negativity. Don’t worry if someone doesn’t like us. Don’t worry about anything at all. Find a solution. Ignore the hurtful comments of others; they are hurting themselves, so don’t let it hurt you. It will make you stronger and more confident. Don’t think of getting back at them or trying to hurt them because nothing is gained, and much is lost. There is no winner here. Treat your “enemies” with kindness; They will soon get tired of harassing you because you aren’t playing their game. As the saying goes, “Kill them with kindness.” Listen to others. Instead of a negative response or action, tell them, “I didn’t think of it that way,” or respond in a manner that won’t cause hurt feelings. If you don’t agree, then ask, “Did you ever think of doing it this way?” or give them something to think about. Don’t call them stupid or laugh at their idea or respond negatively.
Second, don’t try to dominate or pout or threaten to quit if you don’t get your own way. You aren’t doing anyone or the Grange any good by acting this way. You might as well not be a member because you are doing much more harm than good. Work on the suggestions of others. Try to absorb what they are saying and be a part of it. “That won’t work” or “That’s a dumb idea” should never be said. How do you know it won’t work? Because it wasn’t your idea? Because you have had conflicts with the person in the past and want revenge? Do a turnaround in a positive light, show excitement and encouragement and support. Even if the project doesn’t work out to your expectations, then dwell on what went right and make improvements. Work together for the Good of the Order. I have seen this great turnabout happen in my own Grange. We listen to each other, we respect each other, we support each other, we work together. In a few short years, we have gained so much: a new well and septic, acceptance and being noticed in the community, and a great core of friends. It is a pleasure to go to meetings and everyone is excited about our next projects. We plan ahead and everyone’s say is welcome and incorporated into the plans. It is a great pleasure to see more community members, the school and the town officers support our projects. Do they also feel the positive vibes we emit when we talk Grange or when we are in their midst?
Third, the two most powerful words are THANK YOU. Always thank others for their help, whether it be members or the community. Be grateful for what you have and what you all have done. Make others feel good by sharing your good feelings. If you have a productive Grange meeting, thank others for the great meeting. Whether you are the leader or not, still say thank you to your brothers and sisters for being a part of that Grange, for their friendship and devotion, for the reasons you are feeling good. Share your good thoughts with them and make it a “win/win” situation every time. You and your Grange cannot fail from this. Remember, the more positive we think, the more positive energy we attract, then the results will be positive. The same goes for the opposite. Just stop and think. You know which of the above you want, so work toward it and make the world a better place. It will take some work, but it can be done.